I didn’t go to school today. No, there was no holiday or planned schedule change or any other reason other than the fact that I just didn’t want to go. So I didn’t. Which sounds pretty bad ass apart from the pendulum of emotions that existed in my conscious swinging toward the insistence that my decision was a poor one. Here’s how the conundrum of my brain panned out at 8am:
–”Why are you still in bed?”
–I’m not going to school today, I told you this last night”
–You should really get up, your teacher’s going to need you today.
–She hasn’t been ambitious about my stellar English skills this entire semester, why today?
–Well, you never know what other things that you might be missing out on. What if Shakira shows up to your school?
–Good thought, but no. I’m dedicating my time to being productive today. No more sitting around.
–…..Is that not what you’re doing now?
–I SAID I’M NOT GOING
So I wrestled myself out of bed because if I wasn’t going to school I was at least going to check something off of the To Do list. So after crossing off Get Out of Bed, I scratched off Eat Breakfast and then high fived my ambitious body. I sent out a few emails and finalized some planning for a secondary project. Wiping my hands clean I looked at the clock and sighed. It was still only 9:30am and my conscious was well aware that, yes, I could still make it to school for a few hours. I could have made a thousand excuses for why it was a good decision to stay home. For example, is it not equally wrong to impose help on someone who doesn’t want help? Like giving a cactus water every day, as I’ve learned, it just doesn’t need that much love. So let’s say, I’m taking the “cactus approach” with my teacher, just letting her bask in the sun while I hold back the watering can.
So instead of focusing on the one thing that I did not do, I started to write a list of all of the things that I did do this year. At first I really struggled. I made a goal to try and write at least 10 things that, big or small, have been real accomplishments. But once I reached 10, it quickly turned into 15. I stopped, scratched my head, chewed on the pen cap for a bit and kept going until suddenly I was numbering 20 and then eventually 30 pat-on-the-back moments. Granted, “#6 Having a Developed Prefrontal Cortex” did make the list, solely based on the fact that I’ve made more good decisions than bad this year. Also making an appearance, I listed mastering a second language, running a 10K in the Devil’s heat, surviving a 12 hour hike, starting a grant proposal, learning yoga, and acting accordingly at foreign birthday parties. I held up the list after punctuating the 30th line and nodded in recognition of my success. Scanning it over, I realized that some things were accomplished at my school while others out of school but most were unplanned, unexpected and certainly unforced, which is not to say that they didn’t flourish without persistence and hard work. Now with this list in hand I could see that, although I may have come short of my goals at school this year, I have certainly achieved unintended goals elsewhere. Whether planned or unplanned, moments of success cannot be defined by original intentions.
I felt more at ease now, but knew something was still missing. Something that would have only made the above list possible. Something not so easily achieved and yet so easily overlooked. I began to think about all of the obstacles that have stood in the way to get me where I am today; all of the decisions that I have made or could have made or simply did not make but resulted all the same in the brilliant moments of life which have unraveled themselves in my 24 years. None of which would have been possible without the simple fact of existence. So immediately after the last line, I jotted down the miraculous accomplishment “You are alive.” And I smiled.